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Wednesday, January 3, 2018


Have you ever gotten into a slump?  Have you ever let one bad day turn your entire week negatively?  Maybe that week turned into a month, or maybe that month turned into a year.  We've all been there, it happens.  So maybe 2017 wasn’t your year - and that’s ok.  I’m not here to tell you that you’ll never have a bad day. It’s going to happen, bad days are inevitable. What I am here to tell you is that it’s ok to have a bad day, as long as you make sure not to let it impact you in the long haul.

Why am I telling you this?  Because, I have a bad habit of getting into slumps.  I have a bad habit of letting one or two bad days impact my month.  Sometimes I even let that rough month turn into a couple of months.  I end up losing focus on the things I love ; working out, eating healthy, appointments, working, writing, etc.  I personally feel like when I stopped focusing on the things I love, that it just pushed me further and further into that slump.

Over the course of the last six months or so, I lost focus on the things that I enjoyed doing.  I quit working out, I quit eating healthy options, I neglected my planner, I put my business on the back burner and I quit blogging.  I told myself that it could wait, that I could pick it back up tomorrow or that I just needed a day to relax.  I let that one day turn into a week, that week turn into a month and ultimately that month went flying by and it had been half of a year.  I quit doing the things that I enjoyed and through that lost myself.  I regained that 15 pounds I lost and then some.  I let all of the hard work I put into my business go and I'm right back to square one.  I left my planner untouched from the beginning of November until just last night, January 2nd.  I let go of myself.

Now, the first thing I will tell you is that changing your mindset to get out of that slump isn't easy.  Making the decision to stick in that slump is easy, getting out of it is a lot of work.  You have to want to get back on track, and you have to force yourself there.  For the last couple moths I have been full of excuses.  "Just after I get done planning and celebrating Braxton's birthday."  "Lets just get through Thanksgiving, I'll get back to it December 1st."  "Ok, January 1st is my day, new year new me."  Guess what.  None of it mattered.  January 1st flew by and here we are, just a few days later.  I didn't come into 2018 with a plan to change, I didn't set a New Years resolution and I surely didn't set any goals.  I didn't have the desire to.  

I woke up today, January 3rd, and I just felt different.  I don't know what it was, but I woke up in a good mood and I felt motivated.  On December 30th, I activated a new gym membership.  I decided to go with a gym that a few of my friends go to, in hopes that it would get me back on track by going to different classes with them.  I wrote my first real blog, not just photos with some quick words, on January 1st.  I hadn't written a true heart felt blog like that since 11/26/16.  I would write some fun blogs, but nothing that required me to sit down and really think, to get all of my feelings out there.  I think getting behind the keyboard again really inspired me to get back to doing the things I love, the things that drive me.  Last night, January 2nd, I opened my planner again and planned out my week. I filled it with fun stickers, little inspiring notes and a to-do list of things that I wanted to get done.  It wasn't until I woke up this morning that I truly felt I was getting back on track.  These few small steps towards getting what I loved to do back into my life weren't a big enough impact on their own.  I think that the combination of all of them is what put my drive and motivation back into my life.  I woke up today, and I started Thriving once again.  Something I hadn't done often or consistently over that last couple months.  I reached for my products just like I had every day before I got off track - without hesitation and without even thinking about it.

The biggest change in your life needs to be in your mindset.  The two lines that used to ALWAYS come out of my mouth were "Positive mindset = Positive outcomes" and "Rome wasn't built in a day."  You can ask anyone of my friends, and I GUARANTEE that they will agree with this.  These are two phrases I have lived by over the last two and a half years.  You can't expect change overnight, it is something you will need to work at just a little bit each and every day.  If you sit around and think about all the negative things in your life, then that doesn't leave room for the positives.  If you only think about the negatives, then you will in turn continue bringing negative vibes into your life.  If you leave out the negatives and only focus on the positives in your life, it opens the doors for more positivity to come flowing into your life.  Surround yourself with happy, positive people - not the Negative Nelly's of the world.  Wake up every day and write a small list of 
"I AM's."  I AM strong.  I AM determined to succeed.  I AM happy.  I AM positive.  I AM beautiful.  Remind yourself about the things you love about yourself, eventually its going to become second nature to you.  Make a vision board, and fill it with goals, things you want to accomplish over the next year.  Put that vision board somewhere you will see it every day, to remember to stay focused on those goals.

I know that this message might not be for everyone, but I truly hope that at least one person reading this feels inspired to take back control of their life.  I hope that one person reading this feels a little spark within them that reignites their passion and drive towards success and happiness.  If this blog helps just one person reading this, I will feel complete and like my job has been done.

SNAPCHAT:: jordanrenie

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